8 Tips for Parenting Teens

BEST WAYS OF PARENTING ADOLESCENTS

Introduction

Parenting an adolescent has its own emotional ups and downs not only for the child but also for the parents. The struggle of the child to have an independent opinion on every matter, maintaining an identity and dealing with all this can be very overwhelming for any adolescent child but at the same time it is the period of profound growth and expansive mind set for any child as well as parents.  Whether you are a first time parent of an adolescent or has been through this journey earlier also, here are some strategies to help you nurture an adolescent with patience and love.

1. Clear and Consistent Boundaries 

• Remain Clear in Expectations: Set  clear and stable borderlines and guidelines for their behaviour, their daily chores, screen time and moving out with friends. The element of consistency is a key and make sure to follow action as a result of breaking boundaries.
• Provide choices: You don’t have to be dictatorial in your decisions and provide the child with choices to choose from . For example- “Would you like to have a dinner first or complete your project ?”
• Motivate responsibility:  As a parent, give your child a space to take responsibility for actions and decisions taken by him. This freedom will make them more mature and honest in their actions.

2. Maintain Empathy

Adolescence is a time when a child undergoes many emotional changes and it is very essential to recognize the struggles your teen is- maintaining empath with their struggles increases their faith and trust toward you.

3. No Downplay of Feelings

 If your adolescent is stressed  or upset about any matter, acknowledge their feelings. Instead, say things like, “I can see you’re really upset on some issue.”

• Patience is the Key: There are times when teens are overwhelmed and they lash out on any matter. It is not good to overreact with frustration at that time, instead take a step back and give them some  time to settle down their emotions.
• Provide guidance when necessary: Offer advice when necessary, Sometimes they feel they can find solutions on their own so they need only your support and not solutions.

4. Provide Independence but stay connected

One of the most difficult and challenging problem is how toi balance the need of being independent  along with the need of involvement of a parent. The child is keen to become independent and self sufficient and this matter leads to the rise of clashes between parents and  child.

• Encourage self-dependency: Let them take their decisions on the work  and activities they have to do or planning regarding their career. However  also support and guide them when needed.
• Stay involved: The child may force for more freedom but make sure to stay involved with various activities, during meal time or open discussions about their interests.
• Let them face failure: Failures lead to learning from mistakes and they are very necessary for learning, Let your child face problems, overcome challenges and experience failures if any as it will make him more determined and tough to handle the setbacks in life.

5. Model Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Adolescence is a period when  teens learn  how to handle emotions, relationships and stress. It is important to guide them how to dela with the highs and lows of life in a cool way.

• Model Management of Emotions: Express your teen that it’s normal to feel emotions but at the same time very essential to manage them.. Practice  taking breaks or expressing yourself calmly in critical matters that will make them learn better emotional regulation.
• Self care at Priority: Always practice self care and demonstrate the significance of self-care, taking enough rest, work outs, or taking time for hobbies and  inspiring him to do the same.
• Address conflicts in a healthy manner: Disagreements are unavoidable and they bound to happen in some way or the other. Handle the conflicts with respect and calmness.

 6. Encourage Positive Peer Relationships

Friends are very important part of the teen’s life as they can help the child to develop social skills, his emotional growth and self-identity. You can motivate him to have positive peer relationships. As a parent, your role should be in helping them navigate these relationships.

• Encourage healthy friendships: Make them understand the value and significance of a good friend and how to maintain healthy friendship.
• Monitor peer influence: Be cautious and keep watch on the types of friends your teen is hanging out with. Though you cannot control much on who they are spending their time with, you can encourage positive influences and be a good support when necessary.

7. Support Their Talents and  Interests

The child starts to explore his  interests and talents at the time of adolescence. encourage the child  to pursue  passions  and talents which helps to develop confidence and a sense of purpose.

• Appreciate their Hobbies & Provide opportunities: Invest your resources and help them to find opportunities to pursue their talents and interest like music class, painting sessions and workshops, supporting them in their interest and providing guidance and direction in this regard.
• Celebrate the Success: Recognize and celebrate their big and small achievements and motivate them in their failures.. This will motivate them to keep going and increase their self confidence to pursue their interests.

8. Prioritize Mental Health and Well-being

Adolescence is a  very crucial period during which mental health  problems may arise. Anxiety and stress can affect an adolescent and as a parent, you should be a support to guide them

• Keep a Watch for certain signs: Keep check for any changes in behaviour, appearance, change in daily habits. Noticing these  signs can help you to understand any mental health issues the child is facing and  seek professional help if needed.
•  Balanced lifestyle: Motivate healthy habits, such as regular workouts, balanced healthy diet and proper sleep, all of which play a role in mental well-being and maintain open communication in this regard.

Parenting an adolescent is one of the very challenging phase of the parenting journey. The parent should observe the physical, mental and emotional changes the teen is facing in this phase and should act with patience, guiding and supporting the child realising the crucial developments of his life. An adolescent always craves and yearns for independence to take their own decisions . The clear cut boundaries and stable boundaries help to understand that what is expected from them and what is not. Adolescence is a time when a child undergoes many emotional changes and it is very essential to recognize the struggles your teen is- maintaining empath with their struggles increases their faith and trust toward you.